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To make the parenting plan work out, |
That's a foul and I'm calling a penalty. |
You've both been through a lot and now |
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Everything else had been tried so finally |
They haggled over child support. |
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what will you have to show for this work? |
I'm glad you left your guns at the door. |
MoreExamples - note the Source and Target of each:Mediation helps disputants reach a mutual decision. There were underlying tensions that escalated into polarized conflict. He made the decision, but will he follow through? Just when I was getting to the point, he cut me off. I gave (handed) her everything she wanted. He has a certain set of beliefs. They rediscovered their passion for ice cream.
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A brother and sister... arguing about mother...A grown brother and sister are negotiating what to do about the living situation for their aging mother. Their mother had recently had some bad experiences living alone. The daughter argues that assisted living was the answer because their mother would be much less likely to have an accident and hurt herself. The son maintains that assisted living would result in their mother becoming dependent, just what she had always said she did not want to have happen.
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Sister says it will reduce chance...A grown brother and sister are negotiating what to do about the living situation for their aging mother. Their mother had recently had some bad experiences living alone. The daughter argues that assisted living was the answer because their mother would be much less likely to have an accident and hurt herself. The son maintains that assisted living would result in their mother becoming dependent, just what she had always said she did not want to have happen.
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Brother says it will start their mother down...A grown brother and sister are negotiating what to do about the living situation for their aging mother. Their mother had recently had some bad experiences living alone. The daughter argues that assisted living was the answer because their mother would be much less likely to have an accident and hurt herself. The son maintains that assisted living would result in their mother becoming dependent, just what she had always said she did not want to have happen.
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Mediator tells about when he was young...Family members are negotiating about financial matters, each has put forth proposals, everyone seems to understand the issues, but no agreements have been made. The mediator decides to tell a story about how his grandfather, who had lived on a farm, would sometimes not be able to get the mule to pull the cart. What he did then was to tie the mule to a post and go do other chores for a few hours. When he returned the mule was good and hungry and would respond to the usual stimuli and would start to pull the cart.
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Family members discussing financial arrangements...Family members are negotiating about financial matters, each has put forth proposals, everyone seems to understand the issues, but no agreements have been made. The mediator decides to tell a story about how his grandfather, who had lived on a farm, would sometimes not be able to get the mule to pull the cart. What he did then was to tie the mule to a post and go do other chores for a few hours. When he returned the mule was good and hungry and would respond to the usual stimuli and would start to pull the cart.
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you keep watering it for some time. |
what must be cultivated now? |
they put all their cards on the table. |
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The mediator can intervene and reframe the issue
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parties adjust their views of the case.
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step by step, through the entire dance.
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Verbal Interaction is Metaphorically Understood As Physical Interaction
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-Humans push not only with their hands, but with their bodies propelled by their legs and feet. There is a whole "body language" of pushing that includes leaning the body, making contact with hands or other surfaces and applying force. Machines also push. Inanimate, normally stationary objects push once set in motion. All of these variations evoke somewhat different aspects of this source domain.
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I feel I'm being pushed into something...We know that, in mediation, participants talk to each other. They do not physically contact each other, so the use of the word "push" is figurative and triggers one to think of another domain of experience.Some Mediators push for joint custody.
(A quotation from the expert literature on mediation.)
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Ex T.1Pair with person nearby. "I feel I'm being pushed into something." Review the name of the metaphor. Respond using language from same metaphor. Alternative response using other terms consistent with same metaphor.
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Source DomainThe logic, meaning and understanding of Source Domain is made available by introducing a Metaphor. The Metaphor is "apt" to the degree that it has corresponding elements and relationships. Once this Source Domain is available, transfer occurs back to the Target Domain.
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Target Domain`The Target Domain is what is being focused on now. What is of concern is within this domain - the situation you face now.
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Understanding is Metaphorically Understood As Seeing
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Target Domain`The Target Domain is what is being focused on now. What is of concern is within this domain - the situation you face now.
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I can't see how that will ever work |
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Epistomologysense-making / meaning-making / problem-setting constructionism epistomological stages principles of mental organization; orders of consciousness stages of progressively distinguishing one's perceptions from reality, realizing first that events and objects are separable..... separable from oneself... separable from each other... and can be manipulated, controlled... that the point of view used in perceiving is also a separable object or process... ...that can be manipulated and controlled... that each person may have a different point of view, different degree of control...
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ExercisePair with person nearby. Take your statement written down at beginning ...Identify the following in each statement: Target domain Incongruous words Source domain Name the metaphor
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Ex T.2Pair with person nearby. "I can't see how that will ever work." Review the name of the metaphor. Ask questions using language from same metaphor. Alternative response using other terms consistent with same metaphor.
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